Posted on July - 16 - 2009

It’s always funny how life gets in the way of blogging about life. I have had a dramatic decline in posting since meeting Marla, which is understandable because everything has been going so intense and so fast and I have just had less time to do things like post. I miss it, though. Having weeks where the only things I post are Pleasurists’ and HNT’s kind of makes me sad. While I love doing Pleasurists and posting HNT’s I am definitely itching to post.

Marla moved here on July 5th and it’s been rather crazy and amazing ever since. This is the first time she’s moved far away from her family and has never not been able to see her mother and the rest of her family on a semi-daily basis, that in itself has been difficult. In addition she also had to had emergency surgery only a few days before moving, which has also added to the stress.

The connection between Marla and me is amazing. I can’t really describe how wonderful it is. I’m constantly floating with NRE, and the strong desire and love we have for each other is a big part of the reason why she moved here so quickly.

While Marla and Onyx love each other they hadn’t had nearly as much time to build a relationship with each other than Marla and I had, which has been the largest issue since Marla arrived. It’s been hard on all of us, but the combination of stresses and not knowing how she and Onyx are going to relate has been extremely difficult on Marla. Being in the middle of it all has made me, the one who wants to fix everything immediately, often extremely frustrated as there isn’t a lot I can do to help.

We hit a breaking point a few days ago and we all spent some time apart collecting our thoughts and overanalyzing as we always do. Luckily since then things have been wonderful and the two of them have been closer as well.

Since Marla and I are both not working we have quite a bit of time together on the days Onyx is not working, which is very nice for all that NRE business to get semi out of our systems (for lack of a better term) before he comes home so we can all focus on being together. It’s really quite an odd situation, but we are doing our bests to make it work. The most amazing thing is that despite all the downs we all have amazing ups and even when we were at our lowest we all wanted to be together.

It’s quite a crazy ride, but we’re all getting closer every day, and I really do think that once we all get through this transition period and get past the extremely fast changes that are happening we will all be happy and solid together. We are all willing to put in the work and we all know it’s not going to be easy but it will be worth it.


Organization: a Love: Marla, a Love: Onyx, Identity: Poly, Identity: Queer Intellisexual, In My Life. Labels: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , .



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  1. Coy Pink (@) says:

    I am so happy for and completely in awe of the three of you.
    .-= Coy Pink´s last blog ..HNT – Lazy afternoon =-.

      

  2. If things are destined to work out, they will! :) Have faith.
    .-= Sleeping Dreamer´s last blog ..Awkward yet Electrifying =-.

      

  1. Unintentional Hiatus « Confessions of Promiscuity says:

Hello! I’m Scarlet Lotus aka Tai Quyn Kulystin, the writer, designer, and all around creatrix of Purveyor of Pleasure.

This blog is my personal exploration of gender, sexuality, and the pitfalls of an overanalytical nature as well as my path to becoming a sex educator. I also have a sex toy review blog at Wanton Lotus Reviews and am the editor of the weekly sex toy review round-up Pleasurists and the group blog Femme Galaxy.

I currently identify as a genderqueer fat femme fagette, queer polyamorous switch, vegetarian, and occultist. I prefer other-gendered pronouns (ne/nem/nirs/nemself). Currently I'm in a long-term relationship with my Owner Onyx, we operate on an Owner/Cuntpet dynamic with occasional switching. Read more about me→

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