taiWelcome! I’m Tai Scarlet Kulystin, the creatrix of Purveyor of Pleasure. I am a somatic sexuality educator, occultist, professional harlot, and gender & relationships coach. This blog is my personal exploration of gender, sexuality, spirituality, kink, and the pitfalls of an overanalytical nature.

I identify as a queer fat genderqueer polyamorous switch and prefer the pronouns ne/nem/nir or they/them. I spend a lot of my time thinking about sacred sexuality, sacred kink, relationships, the body, queer theory, depth psychology, erotic psychology, sexological bodywork, and so much more. I'm in a long-term live-in relationship with my partner Onyx, and I also have a few other relationships and lovers.
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12.11

2008

Sometimes You Need A Sugasm (#154)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #155? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Watching
“My heart raced as I watched him stare at me, wondering if he knew I was awake. ”

Hot and Handy Part 2: Handjobs for the Ladies in Our Lives
“Getting her wet has two big benefits when it comes to getting her off.”

Sales Report

“I’m the only woman in the room.”

Sugasm Editor
Sex Work And Compassion: Death In A Client’s Family

Editor’s Choice
Crying

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Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Does Legislation affect Porn Fetishes?
Kinklab Vampire Gloves
Lusty Lady Seattle
On The 1st Day of Christmas: Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet Vibrator
Pleasurists #6
Review: Mo’s Sexy Black & Pink Box!
Sex Tips for Husbands and Wives from 1894: Another Internet Hoax?

Sex Advice
Advice: I Fucked His Best Friend
Q&A: Humiliation
What Should a Girl with a Boyfriend Do About Her Lesbo Longings? You Decide.

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Appetizer
AudioErotic – It Never Hurts to Ask
Back to basics
Brush Strokes
Camera Shy, Part 1
Chapter 2
Condom-less
Dreamweaver
Not a real lap dance
Police Officer Fantasy
Razorblade Dreams
Salty sweet
A Welcome Home

Sex Work
A Picture of a Caller in Pantyhose
Another Cockteasing HHNT
Humiliation From My Cell Phone

BDSM & Fetish
Breaking you
Latest Gifts from brock
Limits
More on Baltimore
Rough Beating
Teased and Tortured

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Ask Miss Bliss
Better Barebacking for Bloggers
Melt
*An Oral Confession*

Poly Perfect. Confession #186
Untitled
What’s it Really Like To Work for FetLife
Who Need Latex Fetish Briefs When You Can Get These?

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Andie Valentino removes her pink top to reveal her lovely naturals
Catalina loves Sunday Sin
Femme Fatale (part III)
Just a Little Something
Red Rose of love

11.29

2008

Sugasm (#153)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #154? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
For tonight, we’ll forget who and what we are.

“I want to play with you all night.”

Please, please don’t
“It will hurt, but it will be fine”

Rough
“I want you on top of me.”

Sugasm Editor
Radical Vixen

Editor’s Choice

Sometimes You Find You Get What You Need

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Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Are You a Penis Person? [podcasturbation]

Ask Miss Bliss: Bi and Tired of Being Pressured Into Threesomes
College Confessional: The Naked Truth About Male Bonding
eHarmony: The Battle for Gay Rights in a Nutshell
Kinky vs. Queer vs. Straight Sex
L-O-V-E (the other L Word)
Porn People I Want To Hang Out With
Tie Me to the Ends of Love, Part 1
Wood and lace?

Sex Work

All School and No Kink make Princess a Bitch
Sex Worker Solidarity: Craig Seymour

BDSM & Fetish
At his house
Captured at Folsom.
Christmas came early…or late
Deprived, depraved, fucked and satisfied

Paula’s Story [Part Five]
Sex Camp 2008: Wherein I learn fishnets chafe
A Testament To Douchebaggery

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Catsuit
Femme Fatale
Iga A (Met Art)

Natali Demore tying Vivian Ireene Pierce Preview
Picture 47: the pet
Sandra Shine and Judy Nero
Silky
Sybil hawthorne trying on a ballgag

Sex Advice
Hot and Handy: Giving The Perfect Penis Handjob
How to Have a One-Night Stand

Erotic Writing and Experiences

Airport Conversations
The Back Wank
Cleo and Lisa
Commando
I want more
Lucid Dreams
My strippers are spying on me
Painting the Picture
So, about Monday night …

Tasting The Sun Flower
Twenty Four Hours
When Nerd Night gets nasty
Wrestling With Eric
Z Part 2 – Blade

Sex Humor
Blast From the Past. Confession #178

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews

404 File Not Found… It’s Not Here, But Angela Is
The Cuckold – Cumming to DVD
NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar Party Post Roundup
Porn 4 Pussies: Crash Pad Series, Volume 1
Sex Toy Review: Lelo Mia
Sex Toy Review – The Zone

11.12

2008

Just Another Sugasm (#152)

For this week’s Sugasm I submitted A Few Orgasms Before Bed, under the jump.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #153? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Sugarbutch Star: Maze – The Girl in the Red Dress
“She’s the kind of girl who brings out the worst in me.”

treat or … fuck
“He looked like I had just given him a car for Christmas and he gently took my hand and led me upstairs. ”

A Life Exposed and Amplified
“We were breaking the rules and being dirty.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
I told him I loved him. He gave me a pen.

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09.28

2008

Pour Some Sugasm On Me (#148)

I participated in the Sugasm again this week, with my post Why do I do This? regarding sex blogging and this blog specifically. Reading back over it, though, it makes me realize how jumbled what I wrote was, ad how much I feel I still need to clarify on it… but that’s another post. The posts this week (as with most weeks) are phenomenal, and I highly encourage you to check them out!

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #149? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
People I could hang out with
“But it wasn’t just a story, it was a damn sexy story.”

Red, Hot Ass
“I grunted, but held still.”

Smart Girls Make Better Lovers
“Chicks with brains can make you scream.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Sex Blogging and Writing for the Drawer

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09.13

2008

Sexy Sugasm (#146)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #147? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Nipple clamps, butt plug, Hitachi – oh my!
“Once the plug is in, I’m going to send you on a little walk.”

I discover transcendental orgasm
“It was peaceful, and like holding on to a live wire at the same time.”

When We Were Kids: Thoughts on BDSM
“The tying was always my favourite part, whether I was the one tied who had to escape, or the one who got to do the tying.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Like a Prayer – Part 2

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08.05

2008

This Week's Sexy Sugasm Posts (#143)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #144? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Anti-Porn Protest Gets Weird
“People get very excited about their causes and lack the sense to see if the information backs them up. ”

The Come Shot

“You don’t see their bodies going blotchily red and hear them howling like a banshee.”

Third Time’s a Charm
“If I lift my kilt on Bourbon Street I’m much more likely to get arrested than if Elizabeth takes off her top.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
In My Office

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07.29

2008

Oh, Sugasm (#142)

Time for the Sugasm again. Yes, it’s Tuesday, and that’s when they do it! I submitted… oh, geez, was it just the last post? I’ve got to post those drafts I’ve been working on… well, anyway, I submitted Discoveries of the Domina for this week’s sex(y) bloggers round-up as Sugasm is. This time (for the first time) I included the picture along with the post. Why have I done that? Well, you’ll just have to wait for the next post (if I ever finish it) for an explanation. (changed my mind about that one, but…) I’ve been thinking (as I do) and I’ve got lots of plans ahead… You’ll see (if they ever make it from plans to reality).

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #143? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Interludes – part 3

“He winds the rope around his hands, smoothing the kinks, and I stand there, breathing a little faster, conscious of all those eyes upon me.”

Hurts So Good
“I want you to wear the badges of sweet distress for days.”

Shower fantasy
“You don’t want to admit it, but you want me.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Why I haven’t blogged about the Mosley case

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07.21

2008

It's That Sugasm Time Again! (#141)

My Sugasm entry this week was my post on My Femme Cock (below the cut). I had quite a few more people looking at it than my previous ones, perhaps because it is not in the BDSM category this time, but in the category simply about Sex and Relationships.

I missed participating last week, but I barely squeezed in to this week, and hope to continue participating. It is a wonderful way to encourage blog traffic both to and from my site, so I’m all about it! I have many posts in the workings, and plan on spacing them out over the week, so look for all the posts coming soon!

On to the sugasm:

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #142? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Comedy vs. Tragedy

“Are you on your period? What? Did he just say…”

Ian, or, Sometimes Sex is Hilarious
“In short, it isn’t sex blogger sex.”

A Wish
“I wish that you could know the indescribable pleasure of being enfolded in your warm, gentle wetness.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Road Rage

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07.08

2008

Mmmmm… Sugasm (#139).

My Sugasm post for this week was Impromptu Ravishment Play which seems like I posted it forever ago at this point. I have gotten a lot of positive feedback on it, even before the Sugasm, and I’m actually rather proud of it. I was hoping it would be featured, but probably not enough votes for that. ;)

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #140? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks

Flunking A Call
“I fell silent again and tried to think. What did he want?”

Revision
“He seemed… perfect. ”

Shaving, revisted.
“I don’t do it for society, for anyone who will or will not be seeing it. I do it for me.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Exploitation, objectification and breaking the law…

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06.24

2008

Gimme that Sweet Sweet Sugasm (#137)

I submitted The Perfect Cure for Grumpyness as my sugasm post this week. I have one in the making which will probably be next week’s, but that will depend on what else happens and what else I write.

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #138? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks

I can only be what I am.
“It’s strangely refreshing, to really submit and give up that control, and not have to make decisions.”

Over the Edge
“He tells me to hold still, in that soft, controlling voice of his.”

A Story Told Out of Order and Out of Character – Part 4
“You thought you could just come to my room and tease me?”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
A former slut examined

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