I recently have begun looking into phone sex operator (PSO) work, and with the guidance of the wonderful Ellie Lumpesse I have applied at a few places, and ended up getting a couple offers, one of which I have accepted. Master just faxed in my contract to them today, and so I’m hoping to start work tomorrow. I’m both excited and nervous for this new and very different opportunity! I have chosen to get into this type of sex work for a few reasons.
In looking for a new job, as I have been for the last few months, I have come to the realization that in order to make the kind of money I would like here (in Utah, as that is the tricky part) I would have to change my appearance and personality, basically I would have to hide myself. Now, that is not to say I wouldn’t have to do the same things doing PSO work, obviously there can be quite a bit of roleplay involved, but it is a much different type of roleplay.
I have worked and continue to work a lot on my appearance and personality. I am constantly learning about myself, my desires, my likes and dislikes, and all sorts of factors which go into what I consider to make up this entity which is me. I have done a lot of exploring via this blog, and other blogs, and just in my head. I have come into my own in a very distinct way, and I really to believe that I am constantly learning and changing.
However, I also believe that just about any place I would find acceptable to work here in Utah, with a few exceptions (though none which are hiring), would also not allow me to be me, I would have to pretend to be conservative, straight-laced, and professional, as well as dye my hair, cover my tattoos, and wear clothing I wouldn’t wear otherwise. This isn’t necessarily bad, and I’ve done this before for most jobs which I’ve had, but I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want to do with my life, what goals I have, what I see myself doing down the road, and basically I do not want to be schizophrenic. What I mean by that is, I don’t want to have to be a different person at work than I am at home.
With PSO work I may have to be a different person than I am, engage in some roleplay, something like that, but I would always be me, because the roleplay has a much different purpose. I will be able to help others explore their own (often hidden) fantasies, while exploring my own sexuality as well. In some ways it’s a lot like sex therapy for both myself and the client, both of us being able to act out a fantasy that might not be accessible otherwise. I imagine this will be a highly rewarding for someone who enjoys finding and exploring the sexuality of others as well as my own sexuality.
When I told a few friends of mine that I was getting into phone sex work, after asking about the money one of them said “well, if you’re going to degrade yourself, you might as well get paid well” or something similar. It was kind of glossed over in the conversation, as I think I was the only one who heard him say that, so the others went on to something else, but it made me think.
I really don’t view PSO work or any sex work as degrading when done for the right reasons. It can be degrading for some if done for various reasons or if forced into it, as some people are. However, I do believe that someone can actually choose to get into sex work and find joy, pleasure, and happiness in it. I also believe that it can be empowering, which is often thought of as the opposite of degrading. This is part of being sex-positive, in my mind.
I have yet to have my first day, as I said above, I have a briefing scheduled for tomorrow and hope to start shortly after that. I’ll no doubt report on how I feel about it post-first day, and if any of my feelings regarding PSO work or sex work change. I’m very interested to see how I grow from this experience, and I hope to find out new things about myself and about others due to this decision.
Ellie
I’m so glad that I was able to point you in a direction to research. I hope that you experience all of the fulfillment that you are hoping for. Barring that, I hope you find it to be (like any job) at least tolerable.
dominadoll
Congrats on the new job. That’s great. I hope it goes well for you. It sounds like it will be fascinating and you will be able to learn and explore a lot. Or, at least have lots of interesting stuff to muse about. I worked in sex work for six months many years ago and both enjoyed it and found things not like about it. But, overall it was a positive experience because it was something I chose to explore. I did it for many of the same reasons, but mainly because I found it intriguing and wondered what made people tick… sexually that is. I found out some frightening/sad/wonderful/interesting things about human nature (others and myself). I’ve also worked more recently in a sex store and found that to be rewarding and interesting as well. Best of luck!
The Butterfly Temptress
Way to go! Now, not to step on your toes or anything, but could you possibly email me and tell me how to go about doing this? My husband has been encouraging me to give it a go but I never knew where to start or the “rules” so I never followed through. Care to dish about it? Love to hear about it from someone as straight shooting as you!
PantheraPardus
Many congratulations. I hope it works out well, and we want to hear about your adventures in your new position. :)
Elizabeth
Oh, that sounds awesome! I was recently looking for work, and seriously considered phone sex. But my interest is much higher than my suitability and skills for that particular job, I think.
I look forward to hearing about your experience.
Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
@dominadoll: Thanks! It’s funny, ever since I started mentioning PSO work I’ve had people respond with some sort of interaction they’ve had, many of them had been PSO’s themselves and I had no idea! It’s definitely interesting, and working in a sex toy store is something I aspire to as well (specifically GoodVibes but I’m not too picky as long as it’s sex-positive).
@Ellie: I’m really glad that you were too, and that you were so willing to help! I know I’ve said it before, but, thank you! I don’t expect all the fulfillment to come right away, of course, but we shall see how it goes!
@The Butterfly Temptress: Thank you! And I’d be more than happy to, no toe-stepping happening there as far as I’m concerned. I’ll try to send that out to you today.
@PantheraPardus: Thank you, sweetie! I’m sure I’ll have plenty to write about… ;)
@Elizabeth: Suitability maybe, but skills seem fairly basic, as far as I can tell. I worried about that myself, though, actually, I’ve always been kind of shy doing phone sex with previous partners, but it’s easier with strangers (which makes sense). You never know until you try. ;)