taiWelcome! I’m Tai Scarlet Kulystin, the creatrix of Purveyor of Pleasure. I am a somatic sexuality educator, occultist, professional harlot, and gender & relationships coach. This blog is my personal exploration of gender, sexuality, spirituality, kink, and the pitfalls of an overanalytical nature.

I identify as a queer fat genderqueer polyamorous switch and prefer the pronouns ne/nem/nir or they/them. I spend a lot of my time thinking about sacred sexuality, sacred kink, relationships, the body, queer theory, depth psychology, erotic psychology, sexological bodywork, and so much more. I'm in a long-term live-in relationship with my partner Onyx, and I also have a few other relationships and lovers.
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Reviews: Soft, Crop, Hard, Clean

My reviewing structure, as outlined in this post is that I post full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I posting reviews on Wanton Lotus Tues-Weds-Thurs or some combination thereof depending on the amount of reviews I have each week. Here is the round-up of my reviews for the week!

softpack

Mini and Medium Soft Pack Review Teaser

Name: Soft Pack (also known as Mr. Limpy)

Manufacturer: Fleshlight

Material: SuperSkin (phthalate-free, latex-free) – said cyberskin in the video which isn’t accurate!

Length of the underside (balls to tip): 3-1/2″ (mini) 5 3/4″ (medium)
Length of the topside (base to tip): 4″ (mini) 8 1/2″ (medium) – when hanging with gravity
Girth: 4″ (mini) 4 1/2″ (medium)

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Watch and read the rest of my Soft Pack review here!


rosecrop

Single Rose Crop Review Teaser

Name: Single Rose Crop

Manufacturer: Ruff Doggie

Material: Leather

Length: 24 inches
Width: 1 1/4 inch rose

Sensation: Stingy – 2 (out of 3)

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Watch and read the rest of my Rose Crop Review here!


hardwood

Hardwood Dildo Teaser Review

Name: #467 Apple

Manufacturer: Hardwood Dildos

Material: Recycled Apple Wood

Varnish: “Each dildo is finished with at least five coats of Salad Bowl Finish, a food-quality varnish. The finish seals the wood, making them safe, waterproof, and natural-feeling. I never use any dyes or stains, and I’ve never heard of any allergic reactions.” – from the FAQ.

Length: 6 1/4 inches
Width: 1 3/5 inches

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended!

Watch the video review for the Hardwood Dildo here!


anti-bacterial toy cleaner

Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner Review Teaser

Name: Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner

Manufacturer: California Exotic Novelties

Paraben-free: Yes
Organic: No

Ingredients: Deionized Water, Sodium C 14-16 Olefin Sulfonate, Disodium Lauroamphodiacetate (and) Sodium Trideceth Sulfate, Cocamidopropyl Betaine, Propylene Glycol, Triclosan, Citric Acid, Methylchloroisothiazolinone (and) Methylisothiazolinone, Tetrasodium EDTA

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Read the rest of my Anti-Bacterial Toy Cleaner Review here!

04.26

2009

Reviews: Bar, X, Beyond, Heart

My reviewing structure, as outlined in this post is that I post full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I posting reviews on Wanton Lotus Tues-Weds-Thurs or some combination thereof depending on the amount of reviews I have each week. Here is the round-up of my reviews for the week!

kinklabspreader

Kinklab Adjustable Spreader Bar Review Teaser

Name: Adjustable Spreader Bar

Manufacturer: Kinklab

Material: Steel

Length: Eight options between 25 and 37 inches (adjustable)

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Read and watch the rest of my Kinklab Adjustable Spreader Bar review here!


xerotic2

X: The Erotic Treasury Review Teaser

Title: X: The Erotic Treasury

Editor: Susie Bright

Publisher: Chronicle Books

Published: September 1, 2008 (Hardcover First Edition)

Page Count: 367

Story Count: 40

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Read the rest of my review of X: The Erotic Treasury here!


ophoriabeyond3

Ophoria Beyond No. 3 Review Teaser

Name: Beyond No. 3

Manufacturer: Ophoria

Material: 100% Medical-grade Premium Japanese Silicone

Length: 9 inches
Width: 1 3/4 inches (at thickest point), 1 1/4 inches (shaft)
Girth: 5 1/2 inches (at thickest point), 4 1/2 inches (shaft)

Rating: 5 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Exceptional & A Must Have

Read and watch the rest of my Ophoria Beyond No. 3 review here!


heartcrop

Sportsheets Heart Impressions Crop Review Teaser

Name: Heart Impressions Crop
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Manufacturer: Sportsheets

Material: Leather and (possibly) nylon for the red color between the crop loop

Length: 16.5 inches (without leather loop handle) 24.5 inches (including leather handle)
Width: 2 inches (striking tip) 1.5 inch (heart)

Sensation: Stingy – 1 (out of 3)

Rating: 3 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Good & Recommended

Read the rest of my Sportsheets Heart Impressions Crop here!

04.19

2009

Reviews: Secret, Fun, Lube

My reviewing structure, as outlined in this post is that I post full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I posting reviews on Wanton Lotus Tues-Weds-Thurs or some combination thereof depending on the amount of reviews I have each week. Here is the round-up of my reviews for the week!

agentsecret

Agent Secret Game Profile

Name: Agent Secret Game

Manufacturer: Bijoux Indiscrets

Contents: Black round hat tin containing two black polyester bags: one bag for “Agent 001,” one bag for “Agent 002.” In the bag for Agent 001: a card to write down your “secret desire” on, the pencil to write with, and a padlock to lock the card. In the bag for Agent 002: black bondage ribbons, a red and black feather tickler, a vibrating cock ring, and a satin mask.

Rating: 2 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Okay & Not Recommended

Read the entirety of my review here!


Product Line: Wet Naturals

Manufacturer: Wet

Glycerin-free: Yes
Paraben-free: Yes
Organic: No

Overall Rating: 3 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Good & Recommended

Name: Beautifully Bare
Type Water-based

Name: Sensual Strawberry
Type Flavored water-based

Name: Silky Supreme
Type Silicone-based

Read about all three of these Wet Naturals lubes here!


njoyfunwand

Double-ended Dildo Profile

Name: Fun Wand

Manufacturer: Njoy

Material: Stainless Steel

Length: 8 inches end-to-end
Thickness: 1 inch single bulb. 3/4 inch to 1 inch beads
Girth: 3 1/4 inch single bulb, 2 1/4 inch to 3 inch beads

Rating: 5 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Exceptional & A Must Have

Watch the video review and read the rest of my review of the Njoy Fun Wand here!

Reviews: Four S'

My reviewing structure, as outlined in this post is that I post full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I posting reviews on Wanton Lotus Tues-Weds-Thurs or some combination thereof depending on the amount of reviews I have each week. Fridays are supposed to be my promotion day on here, so here is the round-up of my reviews for the week!

share

Share Strap-on Double Dildo Profile

Name: Share

Material: 100% Medical-grade Silicone

Manufacturer: Fun Factory

Length: 7″ (shaft) & 5″ (bulb)
Thickness: 1 1/2″ (shaft) & 1 3/4″ (bulb)

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended (but keep in mind anatomy differences)

Watch my Share video review here!


Sliquid Organics Lube Profile

Name: Sliquid Organics Natural Gel

Manufacturer: Sliquid

Type: Water-base

Glycerin-free: Yes
Paraben-free: Yes
Organic: Yes

Ingredients: Organics Natural Gel Ingredients: Purified Water, Plant Cellulose (from Cotton), Aloe Barbadensis*, Natural Tocopherols (Vitamin E), Cyamopsis (Guar Conditioners), Extracts of Hibiscus*, Flax*, Green Tea* & Sunflower Seed*, Citric Acid (Citrus Fruits), Phenoxyethanol (Rose Ether)
* Organic botanical extracts are independently certified by Quality Certification Services in compliance with the USDA National Organic Program.

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Read the entirety of my Sliquid Organic Natural Gel review!


silky

Silky Dildo Profile

Name: Silky

Material: Elastomer

Manufacturer: Vibratex

Length: 6 inches
Thickness: 2 1/2 inches

Rating: 4 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Very Good & Highly Recommended

Watch my Silky video review here!


Sex Clean Toy Cleaner Profile

Name: Sex Clean Toy Cleaner

Manufacturer: S.D. Variations

Paraben-free: No
Organic: No

Ingredients: Purified water, coco Glucoside, Methyl Salycilate, Citric Acid, Quaternium-52, Methylparaben, F, D & C Blue No 1.

Rating: 1 Lotus’ (out of 5) – Horrible & Not Recommended

Read the entirety of my Sex Clean Toy Cleaner review here!

03.21

2009

Reviews: Lesbian, Glass, Burlesque

My reviewing structure, as outlined in this post is that I post full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I posting reviews on Wanton Lotus Tues-Weds-Thurs or some combination thereof depending on the amount of reviews I have each week. Fridays are supposed to be my promotion day on here (though I’m a little late this week), so here is the round-up of my reviews for the week!

regardset

Regard Indiscret Set Profile

Name: Regard Indiscret Set

Manufacturer: Bijoux Indiscrets

Contents: Black round hat tin containing black leather tasseled pasties, black feather boa, pearl belt/necklace, and three small round candles.

Rating: 5/5

Watch my video review of the Regard Indiscret Set here!

This is also the set featured in my Black Burlesque HNT this week, so I know you’ve been told this already, but I am giving away a set to one lucky commenter! Find out how here. Comment to win!


meloncrank

Melon Crank Dildo Profile

Name: “Melon Crank” Glass Dildo

Material: Glass

Manufacturer: Don Wands

Height: 6 inches from handle to tip, about 4 1/2″ insertable.
Thickness: 1 inch shaft, 1 1/2 inch head

Rating: 5/5

Watch my video review of the Melon Crank Glass Dildo!


ble08

Best Lesbian Erotica 08 Excerpt

…One reason why I’ve loved the Best Lesbian Erotica series for years is because the stories are always fresh and unique, exposing me to something new in each one…

The theme of Best Lesbian Erotica 08 is transgression. Tristan Taormino describes it in her foreword as not just the transgression that occurs when one comes out as queer and tells their own story, but a transgression beyond what is “normal,” expected, and acceptable. Each story keeps you on your toes, delivering “erotic surprises” (according to the back of the book) and taking you to new heights of depravity and delicious transgression…

Read the entirety of my review of Best Lesbian Erotica 08

03.06

2009

Reviews: Black, Pink, and Silver

My new reviewing structure, as outlined in this post from two days ago is that I shall be posting full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I will probably be posting reviews Tuesday and Thursday or Tues-Weds-Thurs if I have three reviews to do that week (though I wasn’t on that schedule this week since this is the first week I did it). I have decided Fridays will be my promotion day on here, so here is the first round-up of my reviews for the week!

Brando aka Realistic, Large Bent made by Vixen Creations

Dildo Profile

Name: Brando

Material: Silicone

Height: 7″
Thickness: 2″ or 6.5″ around

Pros: Thick, but not super thick. Perfect for amateur size queens. Wonderful vaginally. Also a secret suction cup dildo!
Cons: Might be too thick for some. Also is little daunting for anal play.

Get the full scoop: watch my Brando video review!


hotheart

Amazing Hot Heart Massager Review Snippit

Onyx and I both have back pain, which we often help each other with by massaging the other. His is generally located in his upper-back, while mine is in my lower-back, though sometimes we inadvertently swap symptoms through no design of our own. We sometimes even use the Hitachi as a back massager (unheard of, I know) to allieviate these symptoms. When I had the opportunity to receive the Amazing Hot Heart Massager I jumped at the chance. Anything that makes massaging easier for the massager or better for the massagee was something I definitely at least wanted to try.

Read the rest of my Amazing Hot Heart Massager review!


leatherhogtie

Leather Hogtie Review Snippit

When I found the Leather Hogtie with Scissor Snaps I imagined using them with my Axovus Wrist Cuffs and matching Ankle Cuffs. I imagined a great way to tie someone up and fuck them. I imagined that was what I would be doing with this hogtie strap, but I was wrong. It was completely my fault that I was wrong, but I was wrong.

First, a little of the hogtie device itself. It’s really a very basic restraint device. It’s an O-ring with four strips of leather attached that have scissor snaps attached to them, making it so you can attach the hogtie device to four other things. It’s intended to be attached to four cuffs: two wrist, two ankle, to produce the hogtie position.

Read the rest of my Leather Hogtie review!

Rolling Around My Brain

A few quick thoughts tonight. I feel like I have so much to write about and so much to do lately that I’m not really getting anything done, which irritates me. More posts to come!

I’ve been thinking a lot about this quote lately, from PoMoSexuals “Identity Sedition and Pornography” by Pat Califia p. 88 emphasis mine:

Just to set the record straight: I am a female-bodied person who writes about every kind of person I can imagine. Although I briefly contemplated sex reassignment when I was much younger, I decided that would not resolve my gender conflicts. I’m never sure if I have a gender dysphoria or species dysphoria. I often try to explain that I’m really a starfish trapped in a human body and I’m very new to your planet. Or that in fact I am a woman trapped in a man’s body, which really confuses other people but makes sense to me.

It’s fitting where I feel I fit, where I’ve felt for a while. The drag queen masculine femininity that I cling to, the femme fagette in me that is starting to come out even more. I’ve found a better way to express it lately I think, which is making me indescribably joyful, and I’m discovering more about it too, which makes me even more happy.

Onyx and I went into Babeland tonight and looked around. I pointed out toys I wanted, toys that are (hopefully) coming to me soon, and things like that. I had my first encounter with Mr. Bendy while looking at dildos and soft packs and he’s seriously lustable! I kind of (very much) want one, great for packing and playing, which I like.

I’m toying with the idea of packing more often, but as I primarily wear skirts and dresses I would need a soft pack or a cock like Mr. Bendy that will stay bent.

The other thoughts rolling around my brain is that Femmeinist Fucktoy isn’t resonating with me as much as it used to. It went down when I discovered my switchness however long ago, as fucktoy is a very bottom-centric term, and it’s gone down again now that fagette is a larger part of my identity as well.

I also don’t talk as much about feminist-oriented things as I thought I would when I started this blog. Granted, I do believe that talking about gender and sexuality is a feminist act, but that’s not quite the same as being a feminist blog.

My point in bringing this up is that I’m pondering changing the name, and therefore also the URL of the blog. It’s easyish to transition to another URL and name, but what I’m thinking of changing it to is Femme Fagette.

In talking with Onyx about this he mentioned that naming the blog after an identity might not be the best thing to do, as my identities tend to fluctuate rapidly. While I agree with that I feel like this identity will stay around for a while, but I don’t really know that for sure. Thoughts?

01.23

2009

Review: Tantus G-Force Wand

It’s no secret that some of my favorite toys are made out of silicone. Silicone toys are phthalate-free and non-porous, so are easy to clean, and they can be boiled or stuck in the dishwasher (without soap) to be completely sterilized. What else could you ask from a toy material?

The Tantus G-force Wand is made out of 100% ultra-premium medical-grade platinum silicone, which also means it’s hypoallergenic. Plus it’s a gorgeous plum color and they also have it in pink. Tantus toys are some of the best silicone toys around, with unique and intelligent designs made to hit all the right places, and the G-force Wand is no exception.

The Tantus G-force Wand is about eleven inches if you take the curve into consideration, with about three inches of handle and eight inches of insertable goodness. The handle has somewhat of a matte finish as well as swirly ridges around it so it is easy to grip and keep a hold of even if you get lube on the handle.

It has a thick bulbous head on the insertable end and a nice curve to the slightly bendable silicone shaft, both of which combine to make the G-force Wand a fantastic g-spotter toy, which is definitely the intention of it (hence the G- part of it’s name). I found it absolutely perfect for solo g-spot play.

Personally, I love hard fast penetration, but being a big girl it’s especially difficult to give myself that fucking with dildos since in order to do so I’d have to contort myself into positions and get my arm at just the right angle, and it’s just generally too much work. However, with the G-force Wand it’s long enough I can be comfortably on my back while thrusting it in and out, hitting the g-spot, and even using a vibe on my clit with the other hand. It’s positively heavenly!

The next test was to see if I could use it anally, and it was wonderful for that as well! It was easy to use, basically in the same position as I was using it vaginally. I didn’t find it very good for solo play while on my stomach, only because I wasn’t able to get a good angle with it so it didn’t quite work. However, using it vaginally or anally while on my back combined with a vibe on my clit is absolutely fantastic!

Not only is it great for solo play, as I’ve mentioned, but it’s great for partner play as well. Onyx and I have played with it together, both in him and me (since it’s silicone it can be fully sterilized and shared between partners), and both of us love it. I love how easy the handle makes thrusting it in, and since it’s long and easy to grip it’s just generally easy to use on a partner as well, including while doing other things.

Overall the G-force Wand really has become one of my favorite dildos. There are others that rank higher, but mostly just because they are harness-compatible, and the G-force Wand, of course, is not. However, it is both well made and well designed. If you’re looking for a silicone g-spot toy I highly recommend getting the G-force Wand, for solo or partner play (though especially for solo).

A big huge thank you to Tabu Toys for sending me the Tantus G-force Wand, and for being so patient with me since I took WAY longer to review this than I thought due to moving!

12.17

2008

Review: Red Pleasure Wand

Red Pleasure Wand - Glass Dildo from SexToy.Com

Of all the dildos I’ve tried, glass dildos are by far my favorite type. I have a feeling I would love any other hard materials too, like wood or steel, but glass is the only hard material I’ve tried so far.

Glass toys are also extremely pretty, even the most basic of designs appeal to my toy snob sensibilities, and the Red Pleasure Wand is no exception.

Glass is also a plus because it isn’t porous, so it can be completely disinfected. You can clean it with soap and water or boil it to be sure to get any possible bacteria. Glass also retains heat extremely well, so you can stick it in the freezer for some extra cold sensation play, or heat it up in warm water.

The Red Pleasure Wand is about eight inches long and a one inch thick shaft with one and a half inch thick bulbous ends. It is made of clear glass with red swirls on each round end.

One end is slightly curved, and when I first saw it I was skeptical as to whether or not it would actually end up hitting my g-spot, as usually g-spotting toys have more of a curve to them. However, because of the bulb on the end, which is wider than the shaft, the bulb was able to press against my g-spot nicely, adding that extra delicious amount of sensation.

The other end is not curved, but the bulbous end on that is able to hit the g-spot as well, if used at an angle, though it’s not as easy as the curved end. Each bulb acts as a nice handle when inserting the other end as well. Since I’m a fan of g-spot stimulation I have to say the slightly curved end is my favorite, but the straight end is also nice for anal fun or general thrusting.

Only a small percentage of my toy collection is made up of glass dildos, but the ones I have are all favorites in my toybox. Perhaps the best part about the Red Pleasure Wand is it’s price: a wonderful glass g-spot dildo for under $25? Pretty much sounds like heaven to me!

You can find the Red Pleasure Wand on SexToy.Com along with other glass dildos and sex toys of every flavor.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the Red Pleasure Wand!

11.08

2008

Review: Celestial Perfection

Much like Bandito which I reviewed last week, Celestial Perfection is absolutely gorgeous and curved just the right way, though the color makes it the opposite of Bandito, a soft pearly white instead of a hard black. Celestial Perfection is sleek, smooth, and pleasing to the eye. I wasn’t sure how much I was going to like it when initially, but once I got it I was enthralled by it’s beauty, so much so that I posed with it in an HNT pic!

Everything about Celestial Perfection is, well, perfect. It looks almost like the silhouette of a goddess figure (though not as much as my lover Vicky Venus is), with curves that look like a head, arms, and ass, which I imagine is part of what lends it it’s name: celestial. It’s made by Tantus so you know it’s going to be good quality, it’s 100% silicone, and it has a slot for a bullet vibe in the bottom (and one comes with it) so you can use it as a dildo or vibrator or both.

The curve of Celestial Perfection is simply wonderful, both the g- or p-spot curve of it and also the curves in the shaft of the toy itself. It’s larger than I was expecting it to be, as well, about 7 inches long and over 5 inches around (1.7 inches in diameter), so the bulb on the end grinds into that sensitive internal spot so nicely.

It’s also harness compatible (which you probably already guessed if you looked at the HNT I wore it in), with a nice wide base, and would be perfect to fuck with, since you know it will hit all the right places. I haven’t yet used it with either of my harnesses, except for wearing it once for the HNT pic mentioned above. The base seems a little thin to me when I hold it, but that may be the comparison of it to Bandito’s super thick base.

Overall I liked it a lot more than I thought I would. I was expecting a regular dildo, nothing too fancy, but I found the curves, shape, and look of it alone was enough to turn my head and intrigue me and make Celestial Perfection into one of my new favorite dildos to use.

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