taiWelcome! I’m Tai Scarlet Kulystin, the creatrix of Purveyor of Pleasure. I am a somatic sexuality educator, occultist, professional harlot, and gender & relationships coach. This blog is my personal exploration of gender, sexuality, spirituality, kink, and the pitfalls of an overanalytical nature.

I identify as a queer fat genderqueer polyamorous switch and prefer the pronouns ne/nem/nir or they/them. I spend a lot of my time thinking about sacred sexuality, sacred kink, relationships, the body, queer theory, depth psychology, erotic psychology, sexological bodywork, and so much more. I'm in a long-term live-in relationship with my partner Onyx, and I also have a few other relationships and lovers.
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Archive for the ‘Reviews’


03.14

2009

Reviews: Anal Beads and Two Impact Toys

My new reviewing structure, as outlined in this post is that I shall be posting full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I will probably be posting reviews Tuesday and Thursday or Tues-Weds-Thurs if I have three reviews to do that week. Fridays are my promotion day on here, so here is the round-up of my reviews for the week!

black rubber whip

Black Large Rubber Whip

…Well, what I really like about the Black Large Rubber Whip is that it has a good amount of versatility to it, though most floggers do. It can be light and teasing, trailed softly across sensitive exposed skin. It can be soft and thuddy, launched lightly at a bare bottom to evoke pleasure more than pain. And it can be harsh and stingy, snapped quickly to make the tips lick at tender flesh…

Read the entirety of my Black Large Rubber Whip review here!


bendybeads

Bendy Beads Toy Profile

Name: Bendy Beads

Manufacturer: Fun Factory

Material: Silicone

Height: 10 1/2″ (7 1/2″ insertable)
Thickness: smallest bead: 3/4″ – largest bead: 1 3/4″

Pros: Great for beginner or expert anal lovers alike. Fun design, unusual look. Bending abilities lets them mold to you rather than the other way around. Affordable.
Cons: None?

Watch my extensive video review of the Bendy Beads!


red wide-tipped riding bat from SexToy.Com

Red Wide-Tipped Riding Bat

…With crops and bats, unlike canes and floggers, one hits only with the very end of the bat instead of the majority of the object. The wider the end of the bat the less stingy the sensation, which was the majority of my reason for wanting this bat. I have a thinner tipped crop which has a sharper sting to it. While the Red Wide-Tipped Riding Bat does also sting, the sting it produces is much less sharp and more of a thud…

Read my Rentire review of the Red Wide-Tipped Riding Bat here!

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03.06

2009

Reviews: Black, Pink, and Silver

My new reviewing structure, as outlined in this post from two days ago is that I shall be posting full reviews on my review site Wanton Lotus (RSS) and teaser reviews once a week here. I will probably be posting reviews Tuesday and Thursday or Tues-Weds-Thurs if I have three reviews to do that week (though I wasn’t on that schedule this week since this is the first week I did it). I have decided Fridays will be my promotion day on here, so here is the first round-up of my reviews for the week!

Brando aka Realistic, Large Bent made by Vixen Creations

Dildo Profile

Name: Brando

Material: Silicone

Height: 7″
Thickness: 2″ or 6.5″ around

Pros: Thick, but not super thick. Perfect for amateur size queens. Wonderful vaginally. Also a secret suction cup dildo!
Cons: Might be too thick for some. Also is little daunting for anal play.

Get the full scoop: watch my Brando video review!


hotheart

Amazing Hot Heart Massager Review Snippit

Onyx and I both have back pain, which we often help each other with by massaging the other. His is generally located in his upper-back, while mine is in my lower-back, though sometimes we inadvertently swap symptoms through no design of our own. We sometimes even use the Hitachi as a back massager (unheard of, I know) to allieviate these symptoms. When I had the opportunity to receive the Amazing Hot Heart Massager I jumped at the chance. Anything that makes massaging easier for the massager or better for the massagee was something I definitely at least wanted to try.

Read the rest of my Amazing Hot Heart Massager review!


leatherhogtie

Leather Hogtie Review Snippit

When I found the Leather Hogtie with Scissor Snaps I imagined using them with my Axovus Wrist Cuffs and matching Ankle Cuffs. I imagined a great way to tie someone up and fuck them. I imagined that was what I would be doing with this hogtie strap, but I was wrong. It was completely my fault that I was wrong, but I was wrong.

First, a little of the hogtie device itself. It’s really a very basic restraint device. It’s an O-ring with four strips of leather attached that have scissor snaps attached to them, making it so you can attach the hogtie device to four other things. It’s intended to be attached to four cuffs: two wrist, two ankle, to produce the hogtie position.

Read the rest of my Leather Hogtie review!

02.28

2009

Review: Aneros Peridise

The Aneros Peridise and I have had a strange relationship. I was enamored with them the first time I laid eyes on them on Babeland’s website. Generally I love unusual toys, and Peridise is definitely unusual.

Aside from the uniqueness of the toy, my relationship to it actually has to do with the issues I’ve had regarding reviewing it. I received my Peridise at the same time I got the Bliss #12 and Entice lube, which was near the end of November. I reviewed those two in late December/early January, but Peridise was a little more elusive.

As you may or may not know in mid-January I moved to Seattle. Somehow, between packing up and actually getting here my Peridise went missing. How did this happen, you ask? I have no idea! I bought a couple cases from For Your Nymphomation to make the sex toy transportation easier, but somehow Peridise did not make it in to one. I keep expecting to find it laying around the house somewhere obvious that I’ve somehow overlooked, but it hasn’t happened by now so it probably isn’t going to happen.

After many searches through everything Onyx and I own I came to the conclusion that I was not going to find it. However, since I still needed to review it and I didn’t feel I had tried it out enough times to do a decent review (plus I wanted to play with it more) I went along to the Babeland store here and bought a replacement set. Since it was a toy I knew I would want to use multiple times I didn’t fret too much about that.

Now, back to the Peridise itself. I’ve explained my strange road to reviewing it, but what exactly is it, and why does it seem like they spelled paradise incorrectly?

Aneros is famous for their fantastic anal products, specifically prostate simulators, which are usually sleek and stylish made out of hard plastic and shaped to be a hands-free p-spot stimulator.

Peridise is actually a unisex anal PC (pubococcygeus) muscle exerciser. There are plenty of vaginal kegel exercisers out there which also focus on the PC muscles, but this is the first unisex exerciser and the first anal one that I know of.

PC muscle exercises are always talked about in relation to females, as they are most popular as vaginal kegel exercises as I already mentioned, but they can also be useful for men. In case you don’t know, the benefits of kegel exercises increase urinary or bowel control and can also increase control over ejaculation. Specifically for females they also increase tightness of the vagina, prevent pelvic prolapse, and can increase sexual arousal/desire. For males they can diminish premature ejaculation, encourage multiple orgasms (especially multiples without ejaculation), and result in a stronger erection. All good things, right?

The design of the Peridise is meant to stimulate the peristaltic reflex of the sphincter which is the reaction of the anus to contract when something is inserted in it. The idea behind that is that once the head of the Peridise is inserted the rest of it should be sucked up into the body automatically, and crazy enough that happens!

Peristaltic is also what Peridise gets it’s name from. Peristaltic + Paradise = Peridise. Kinda neat, right?

Peridise comes in two sets: beginner and advanced. Assumption would dictate that the advanced set would be larger than the beginner, but it’s actually the opposite. The theory being that the better control you has over the PC muscle the smaller the objects are that you would be able to successfully grasp. Makes, sense, right?

Both sets come with two plugs. The beginner set has two four inch plugs which are 22mm and 18mm thick (or 3/5″ and 4/5″). The advanced set has two 3 3/4″ plugs which are only slightly thinner at 20mm and 16mm (or 7/10″ and 9/10″). One thing I love about getting two in a set is that if you have a partner to share Peridise with (and you’re not having anal sex at the moment) both of you can be wearing a plug during sex, which would increase pleasure for both!

Taking Panthera Pardus’ advice I decided to insert both the LELO Luna Beads (kegel exercisers) and Peridise at the same time and delicious doesn’t begin to cover it!

Both exercisers are somewhat small, but them combined with the squeezing of muscles around them was absolutely heavenly! This could easily be done with Smart Balls or new Teneo Smart Balls as well, or any other vaginal balls assuming you have the required orifices.

But I digress. What you probably really want to know, aside from all this technical mumbo jumbo is if Peridise does all the things it claims to do, right? Well, I believe it does. I know it encourages stronger orgasm, as I’ve seen the difference in Onyx and I’ve felt the difference in myself. The PC muscle strengthening is slightly more difficult to assess, but I feel like it has assisted me there as well.

02.18

2009

Review: Super Strap Love Sling

I’ve had the Super Strap Love Sling for quite some time, which has enabled me to play around with it quite a bit.

It’s really simple, basically two nylon circles on the end of an adjustable nylon strap which also has a fur rectangle in the center of it. It’s made for a modified missionary position, mostly, to assist the legs in staying up in the air while being fucked.

The first time we tried the strap out it didn’t seem to work well, it was slightly uncomfortable and I just didn’t really like it, but I wasn’t going to give up on it after just one use.

The second time was better, probably because I played around a lot with the length of the straps before Onyx and I were actually penetrating so that my legs were at the right length and I was actually getting support from it instead of just having it strain my neck and not do much.

The second and subsequent times were all wonderful. It was easy to use and super comfortable now that I had found the right length. I found it was best to have my legs straight up in the air, rather than bent, though I could bend them if I choose. The strap should be slightly too short so that your legs don’t have to lock into position in order to maintain the tension, but not so short that it’s uncomfortable.

I discovered the strap also enabled me to lift my head up to meet Onyx’s kisses, which is often difficult in a missionary position as he can only bend down so far and I can only lift up so far (we also both have back problems) and that was a wonderful added bonus!

It definitely gives the sensation of being restrained without actually having to do much work. Nothing unhooks or unbuckles, it just slips behind the head and slips onto the bottoms of the feet, then lift the feet up in the air and voila! It’s definitely not quite the same sensation as a heavy pair of cuffs or rope, but there is an immobilization factor.

I really like grabbing the straps with my hands or wrapping the strap around my wrists while my feet are up in the air as well, which tugs slightly on the straps, enables me to shift my position, and gives the impression that I cannot get out.

In addition to simply aiding the ability to keep legs up in the air the Super Strap Love Sling also assists in g-spot positioning. It can assist in tilting the pelvis up at just the right angle, so the penetrating object (be it flesh or silicone) can get at that sweet spot even easier.

And this is not just for use on females. Personally I prefer taking Onyx’s ass when he is in a doggy style or similar position, since it’s just easier to get at his ass that way, but the strap helps in gaining a comparable level of access when he is on his back, which I definitely like (and he does too).

The Super Strap Love Sling also can be used as a doggy-style strap by tightening each side of the strap (on either side of the fur-lined neck brace rectangle) completely. This makes the strap very short, the length of the rectangle and the feet handles, which can be easily slipped under the receptive partner and used to lift their ass for some penetration from behind. The loops on the end make for excellent handles and also aids in getting the right angle for g-spot or p-spot stimulation.

There are probably other ways this strap could work as well. If you’re small you may be able to slip the handles on the end up and around your knees rather than your feet, so you could have a sort of sling position instead of the legs up in the air. It can, of course, be used in conjunction with other types of bondage to enhance the sensations.

I love that there are multiple possibilities for this affordable and easy-to-use strap, and I know it’s something I have and will use over and over again. Thank you very much to Pink Cherry for letting me review the Super Strap Love Sling,!

PinkCherry.com Sex Toys

02.08

2009

Review: Axovus Wrist Cuffs

Find these Axovus Wrist Cuffs and matching Ankle Cuffs (my review of the ankle cuffs) along with other BDSM and Fetish Toys and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the Axovus Wrist Cuffs!

02.04

2009

Review: Pink and Black Beaded Nipple Clamps

Cute, femme, and flirty, the Pink & Black Beaded Nipple Clamps bring a bit of class to standard tweezer-clamp style nipple clamps. Ranging in sensation from soft and pleasurable to wicked and painful, clamps are fun and easy to use. A definite necessity!

Thank you very much to Tabu Toys for allowing me to review these Pink & Black Beaded Nipple Clamps!

01.29

2009

Review: Tuyo

I really hate to give bad reviews, but the loudness of the Tuyo was so distracting that I couldn’t get into it.

While not all Tuyo’s have this noise issue enough of them have it and enough people have complained about it that it is an issue with the toy and not just with my toy.

Sorry Big Teeze and Babeland! I really wanted to like Tuyo, the design is so awesome and unique that I really thought I would like it, but I really just can’t.

Thank you very much to Babeland for allowing me to review Tuyo!



01.25

2009

Review: 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane

One thing I’ve noticed, too, that I forgot to mention is that a lot of people shy away from canes because they can be very wicked. The nice thing about canes is that they can produce a range of sensation, they don’t have to just be used for hard blows. I mentioned the range of sensation a bit regarding the diameter differences, but also depending on where and how hard they are used the sensation can range from light to horrible.

While many people think they don’t like canes, I challenge anyone who enjoys pain play and/or impact play to try them (since they are so darned cheap too) and play around with the sensations and intensity of the toy. I believe most people would enjoy them if they just played around with them a bit.

Find the 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane (also in black, purple, blue, or green) along with other BDSM and Fetish Toys and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Also mentioned:
3/8x30in Red Acrylic Cane which also comes in black, purple, blue, or green (you can read my review here.)
3/8x24in Red Acrylic Cane also in black, purple, blue, and green

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane!

01.23

2009

Review: Tantus G-Force Wand

It’s no secret that some of my favorite toys are made out of silicone. Silicone toys are phthalate-free and non-porous, so are easy to clean, and they can be boiled or stuck in the dishwasher (without soap) to be completely sterilized. What else could you ask from a toy material?

The Tantus G-force Wand is made out of 100% ultra-premium medical-grade platinum silicone, which also means it’s hypoallergenic. Plus it’s a gorgeous plum color and they also have it in pink. Tantus toys are some of the best silicone toys around, with unique and intelligent designs made to hit all the right places, and the G-force Wand is no exception.

The Tantus G-force Wand is about eleven inches if you take the curve into consideration, with about three inches of handle and eight inches of insertable goodness. The handle has somewhat of a matte finish as well as swirly ridges around it so it is easy to grip and keep a hold of even if you get lube on the handle.

It has a thick bulbous head on the insertable end and a nice curve to the slightly bendable silicone shaft, both of which combine to make the G-force Wand a fantastic g-spotter toy, which is definitely the intention of it (hence the G- part of it’s name). I found it absolutely perfect for solo g-spot play.

Personally, I love hard fast penetration, but being a big girl it’s especially difficult to give myself that fucking with dildos since in order to do so I’d have to contort myself into positions and get my arm at just the right angle, and it’s just generally too much work. However, with the G-force Wand it’s long enough I can be comfortably on my back while thrusting it in and out, hitting the g-spot, and even using a vibe on my clit with the other hand. It’s positively heavenly!

The next test was to see if I could use it anally, and it was wonderful for that as well! It was easy to use, basically in the same position as I was using it vaginally. I didn’t find it very good for solo play while on my stomach, only because I wasn’t able to get a good angle with it so it didn’t quite work. However, using it vaginally or anally while on my back combined with a vibe on my clit is absolutely fantastic!

Not only is it great for solo play, as I’ve mentioned, but it’s great for partner play as well. Onyx and I have played with it together, both in him and me (since it’s silicone it can be fully sterilized and shared between partners), and both of us love it. I love how easy the handle makes thrusting it in, and since it’s long and easy to grip it’s just generally easy to use on a partner as well, including while doing other things.

Overall the G-force Wand really has become one of my favorite dildos. There are others that rank higher, but mostly just because they are harness-compatible, and the G-force Wand, of course, is not. However, it is both well made and well designed. If you’re looking for a silicone g-spot toy I highly recommend getting the G-force Wand, for solo or partner play (though especially for solo).

A big huge thank you to Tabu Toys for sending me the Tantus G-force Wand, and for being so patient with me since I took WAY longer to review this than I thought due to moving!

01.05

2009

Review: 3/8x30in Red Acrylic Cane


Note: I can’t find my card reader for my camera, but once I do I will have a custom picture up, not the stock photo.

I love canes. No, really. I mean, I often hate them as well, especially while they are being used, but I think they (can) feel great, look super sexy, and leave the prettiest marks and bruises of any impact play implement. So, when looking around at the various BDSM and Fetish Products on SexToy.Com I was instantly attracted to this gorgeous (and extremely affordable) acrylic cane.

Cane’s aren’t usually very expensive, but can range from next to nothing to around $25 or $30 at the maximum depending on material and quality of craft. I don’t think I’ve seen a cane for more than $25, though I could be wrong. They can be used lightly for more of a not too painful burning sensation, or up to a harsh sharp sting depending on the type and force of the blow. They are often scary to some, who associate canes with extreme pain, and while they can produce that if desired they can also be a wonderful (and inexpensive) addition to any toybox.

I have wanted an acrylic cane for a long time, mostly because I think they are absolutely gorgeous. I’m a color coordinator by nature, and I love to have all colors matching, including my toys to my restraints/rope/cuffs, clothes/lingerie, and etc. so acrylic canes are perfect for that. They are also just pretty in general, and prettier (I think) than natural canes, which is the other kind of cane we have.

The first cane we bought is rattan (I think) and the same shape as this one. It’s thicker than my new acrylic cane, but about the same length, 30 inches long. I find the length to be perfect, not too long to be annoying but long enough to get some nice good swings. The red acrylic cane is a lot more bendable than the other cane I have, and also stings more both because of it’s bendability as well as being thinner in diameter. The thinner the cane the more sting it produces.

Because it’s stingier that didn’t wholly endear it to me. I prefer my canings to burn more than sting, it’s a slight difference but definitely important. Although the way a cane is used also greatly impacts the type of sensation received, and this cane is easy to produce many different kinds of sensation with. I’m planning on getting the 1/4x20in Red Acrylic Cane to compare and contrast as well.

Find the Red Acrylic Cane along with other BDSM and Fetish Products and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the 3/8x30in Red Acrylic Cane!