Remember my three restraints and a blindfold review a while back? Which was also my first video review? Well, as I mentioned in the review and the video, PinkCherry.Com was gracious enough to send me not one of each of those four kinky items, but two so that I could give them away on Pleasurists!

Japanese Love Rope	Taboo Kinky Cuffs
Black “Pleasure”/Bondage Tape	Pleasure Masks

This is the first contest on Pleasurists, and I hope it will get a lot of entrants. All you have to do is comment over there saying which one you want, why, and promise to write a review of the product after you get it that can be included in Pleasurists. Not too much to ask, right?

Go over and enter!

#4 Kat – so be expecting an email from me very soon!

Thanks to the Random Number Generator for picking the winner for me, and thank you all for commenting/entering. I absolutely loved hearing what you all are interested in doing next year, and I hope you get to accomplish all your desires.

A big huge thank you very much to Babeland.Com for giving me the Elastomer Rabbit Habit to give away in the first place!

There will be more contests in the future, so be sure to enter those! Someone’s gotta win, why not you?

Pleasurists will have a contest very soon featuring four kinky items from PinkCherry.Com!

Like many families, my family doesn’t celebrate Christmas from a Christian standpoint, mostly from a cultural standpoint. None of us are really Christian, per se. Christmas music is huge in our house, however, mostly because of my mother, the rest of us like it for the most part (possibly because it’s one of those family things since mom plays it all the time around Christmas time) but we don’t do as much listening as she does.

Since Christmas music is so big in my family I thought I would share with you my favorite Christmas song. It’s not terribly well-known (read: not overplayed). I usually listen to The Carpenters version of it, but I found the Frank Sinatra version of it on YouTube and thought I’d share that.

It is The Christmas Waltz.

Happy Christmas to all you who celebrate it, religiously or culturally. Happy Hanukkah, Happy Solstice (a few days ago), Happy Holidays to all, and may New Years bring you all the happiness and gifts that you desire.

From The Full Body Project by Leonard Nimoy

I’ve been thinking a lot about size in general, both big and small and everywhere in between. Chicory (who I met face-to-face yesterday and is fantastic!) and I have been conversing about it, via email, comments, and in our meeting yesterday, and inspired by Thursday’s Child’s Sex and Intimacy Project I want to pose some questions to all of you.

Size acceptance is coming to be an issue I am passionate about. I’ve forever had the same hangups as, well, just about everyone in this culture. The same negative feelings towards my size. Though it’s important to distinguish between health and size, even though our society does not really view it that way. We are told that thin equals healthy and fat equals unhealthy, though I know plenty of thin people who eat much much worse than I do, and yet. But I digress.

The questions I want to pose have to do with the intersection of size and sexuality in your life. They may have no intersection at all, or you may have never thought of the intersection, but either way I want to hear about it. This may seem obvious, but the most interesting aspect, I believe, will be to see how everyone differs and what similarities there are, as well as being able to get a glimpse of the person within their answers.

Weight and size are touchy subjects in our culture, as is sexuality. Both have to do with the body and have moral judgments thrust upon them. Both are aspects of the self that are extremely personal and also that have strong cultural expectations and meanings. Both affect the way we present ourselves and think about ourselves.

The Size & Sexuality Study is a series of interviews highlighting real people’s answers to the questionnaire below. At the end of the posting of interviews (end date not known) I will post my own reactions to the study as well as my own answers, and how reading the feelings and thoughts of all these interesting and informative people has affected me over the space of the study.

Want to answer the questions? Fill out the questions below and send them to me: scarletsexgeek AT gmail DOT com

In order for these interviews to be what I would consider successful I need you to be completely honest. This is about real people talking honestly about their bodies and their sexuality, recognizing what society tells us about our bodies and recognizing how that affects our own ideas about how we should or should not act. If you wish you thought one way but really think another I want to hear that, not just what you wish you thought.

The focus of these questions are not just on large/fat/plus-sized women, I’m interested in answers from everyone of all sizes, all genders, all sexes, and so on. If you want to answer them, please do!

Feel free to skip any of the general info questions you are not comfortable answering, but please do answer all of the others. The more in-depth the answers the better, but in-depth and lengthy are not always the same thing (though they can be).

General Info
Name (what you’d like to be called):
Age:
Gender identity and presentation:
Sexual identity:
Relationship status:
Blog/Website (if you have one):

Size & Sexuality
What size is your body (you can use dress/pant sizes, a general description, anything you’re comfortable with, though remember that not all terms mean the same thing to the same people.)?
How comfortable are you with your body both in general and your body size specifically?
How has your relation with and attitude toward your body and the size of your body changed over time?
How important is sexuality to your life?
How has your relation with and attitude toward your sexuality changed over time?
How comfortable are you with expressing yourself and your body sexually?
How comfortable is society with the idea of viewing your body as sexual?
Through answering these questions and/or thinking about your relation to your body and your sexuality, have you noticed any links or similarities between the two? If so, what?
Anything else you would like to add?

Feel free to ask any questions you may have in the comments or via email, but please don’t answer the questionnaire in the comments. sizeandsexuality AT gmail DOT com

I adore FetLife. For those of you who don’t know, I’m also a FetLife Greeter, which means I send out messages to new members that are assigned to me welcoming them to FetLife. I’ve been a greeter since the beginning of July.

I became a greeter because of FetLife itself, because it truly is an online community, not a dating site, nothing you have to pay for, and filled with people who truly want a place to communicate with others about all sorts of issues, play techniques, and just about anything, really.

I’m not just here to sing the praises of FetLife… wait, I kind of am, actually. But, I’m not just here to talk about the wonderful site features (of which there are many) or to tell you that you should sign up and become a member if you are even remotely kinky and haven’t already (though, you should!), I’m actually wanting to tell you about the amazing christmas/holiday gift being given out by the FetLife Family (sounds like a mob family–maybe I’ve just been watching too much Sopranos).

They have put together the “bestest and largest ever” Kinky Christmas Stockings! They include:

• The Worlds Best Blindfold by Scott Paul Designs
• 6 month subscription to Into the Attic
• 6 month subscription to Backdoor Bondage
• The Zeus Electrogasm from ExtremeRestrains
• DVDs from Kink.com
• Vibrator from VibeReview.com
• Lucid Dream Bullet from Bondage Fetish Store
• Wartenberg Pin Wheel from Medical Toys
• Graves Speculum from Dr. Clockwork
• Emt shears, cane, paddle or rope from Boss Bondage and PlayPiercingKits.com
• 10 foot custom dyed rope from Ms. Nikki Nefarious
• Something special from Dungeon Discounters
• A leather goodie and 30% coupon from Sinvention
• 4×6 Print from fetish photographer Lochai
• New York City SexBloggers 2009 Calendar
• 5″ toy case from For Your Nymphomation
• Round Triskele-Symbol 3″ Lapel Sticker from RogerMeToo
• 25 Condoms… because protection sucks but is necessary

Estimated value: $548 USD

The awesome thing is that they have five of these to raffle off, and all you have to do is send an email and your name will be entered! Read all the info here!

Oh, right. I’m not only writing this post to let you know about the drawing (though that is part of it), I’m also letting you know so that I can brag. Since I’m a FetLife Greeter, I get to have a stocking all of my very own! Kinda like a christmas bonus! I’m so excited! You’ll definitely be hearing about it once I get it.

So go and enter to win a stocking! Good luck!

Also, remember My XXXmas Wishlist? Well… I got something from it! I’ll be sure to tell you how it is!

Ho. Lee. Shit.

I’ve never had this happen before that I can remember. I just woke up from a dream coming, without any physical stimulation. It was glorious. I was very pleasantly surprised!

Now, the dream:

I’m not sure how I got into the situation, but I was with someone (no one I know) and we were in a large spacious room. We were fighting, kinda play-fighting, trying to figure out who was going to be on Top. He (masculine though not necessarily male, that was unclear–you know how dreams are) told me that he knew I wanted to be taken, dominated, etc. I was adamantly refusing it. I had my red cane and was occasionally hitting him in addition to our wrestling, circling, and fighting.

At one point something changed in me. I’m not sure how it happened, but I think he tripped me, so I fell to my knees. He pushed his hand against my shoulders and brought them to the floor, so my ass was up in the air. I suddenly didn’t want to be on top anymore, I wanted to be topped, but I didn’t want him to know that.

Suddenly he had the cane and was hitting me just the way I like it: lots of little somewhat-light/somewhat-hard smacks that burn more than sting. He was smacking just above my ass, mostly, telling me that was a sensitive spot, asking me if I was enjoying it. I shook my head but inside I was singing, elated, loving every second.

I was naked, though I think I had been clothed before (you know how dreams are). He was still clothed. Suddenly he pushed three lubed fingers into my ass, which slid in easily and wonderfully. I clenched around them and moaned as he continued to cane me in that lightly-hard burning way that I love so well. He chuckled and asked me again if I enjoyed it, if that was a moan of pleasure or displeasure. I didn’t answer, but I didn’t need to.

He began fucking my ass with his fingers, until I started moving back toward him, clenching around him. I could feel my cunt so wet beneath where he was penetrating, and then he brought out the toy.

It was a rabbit like the one I’m giving away (though I haven’t used that one, but I’ve marveled at it and want one). He turned it on, pushed it inside of me, and positioned the ears just perfectly over my clit. He continued fingering my ass while the rabbit turned away inside me getting my g-spot and the ears buzzed over my clit.

It didn’t take long until I was coming. As I came in the dream I woke up to my body and cunt spasming, coming, partaking in a glorious (albeit short as I was not fully awake for all of it) orgasm.

My hands were nowhere near my clit or cunt or ass. I was coming hands-free, on my side, clutching a pillow to my chest.

Score one for my imagination.

Find the Pink or Deep Rose Gigi along with other vibrators and sex toys of every flavor on SexToy.Com.

Much thanks to SexToy.Com for letting me review the LELO Gigi!

From this gallery on Barely Evil

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #8? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #10? Submit it here before Sunday December 14th at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

• 1000th Comment Giveaway! Deadline: when the 1000th comment is posted.
• Holiday Contest!! Deadline: December 24th.
• A Holiday Bunny Giveaway! Deadline: Friday December 26th at 11:59pm PST.
• Swag Contest: Win a Rabbit Habit or Pink Kink Kit! Deadline: December 27th, 8pm PST
• Win a Hot New Sex Toy! Deadline: February 1st.

On to the reviews…

Editor’s Pick

• Don Wands Candy Cane by Curvaceous Dee

Verdict: A gorgeous present to go in any bad girl’s stocking – or a good girl’s stocking, if you want to corrupt her in a most pleasant fashion.

Note: I couldn’t pass up picking this particularly festive toy! There are some gorgeous pictures with this review as well (as usual for Dee).

Madame Editrix
Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

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The wonderful people over at PinkCherry.Com were nice enough to send me a number of kinky items to compare and contrast with each other. They also sent me two of each of these items to give away on Pleasurists, and that contest will come out soon so keep your eye out!

Each of these items are quite affordable, all under $15 on PinkCherry.Com. With sex toys, usually you get what you pay for, so the more you pay the higher the quality, and for the most part that’s true. These items are not heavy duty leather, nor do they have fancy bells and whistles, however they all do exactly what they are meant to do while being very affordable and fun to use.

Some duplicate information in video and text.

Japanese Love Rope

This purple Japanese Love Rope is very basic. It comes with finished edges and has a little 16-page booklet included with it as well which has a lot of great basic rope safety information as well as a few ties within it. The rope itself is a gorgeous purple color and is very soft and feels nice against the skin, though it could easily leave pretty rope marks as well. It is 3 meters or 10 feet long.

Onyx and I have played with the rope a few times, it is great for a few of the ties in the Two Knotty Boys book, mostly basic wrist and ankle ties since it is not terribly long. It is wonderfully smooth and the purple color is simply gorgeous against the skin.

Taboo Kinky Cuffs

These Taboo Kinky Cuffs are fun and easy to use. What I like most about them is that they are made out of neoprene, which is made to use wetsuits and is 100% water friendly (so says the back of the package). They velcro to close and easily fit both large and small wrists and they are strong and very easy to use.

As you can see from the image, they say “Don’t Stop” on them, so they’re a little campy and fun, not strictly serious, though the writing is easy to ignore as well. They would be fun as a kind of gag gift or a gift to someone who takes things a little too seriously and you might want to bring a little levity to.

These also have a “sister product” which are also called Taboo Kinky Cuffs but these say Spank Me on them and are red.

Black “Pleasure”/Bondage Tape

I absolutely love Bondage Tape. This is actually my third roll of it, I’ve had another roll of black and currently have a roll of red in addition to this roll of black from PinkCherry. Bondage Tape is both discreet and extremely easy to use, so if you accidentally leave the roll out where others can see all they would see is a roll of black tape, not a bondage item.

Bondage Tape isn’t sticky to anything but itself, so you don’t have to worry about hair being pulled out or skin being irritated. However, it does stick to itself very easily, so it’s great for any quick bondage, though you should be sure to wrap it around multiple times as just once isn’t enough.

It’s also great for impromptu gags, especially panty gags or something similar, you can wrap it around the head easily to secure a gag and not have to worry about hair getting ripped out since it sticks to itself and not anything else.

Pleasure Masks

Last but not least, the Pleasure Masks, or blindfolds, are a really great deal. They are made of rather light fabric so they, again, aren’t heavy-duty but they definitely serve their purpose.

They do have a bit of fabric that actually goes over the bridge of the nose to keep light out, so the sliver of light that blindfolds often will let through is nonexistent with these if positioned correctly. This is wonderful because it creates complete sensory deprivation instead of partial and can help to but the bottom in the right mindset faster.

Since you get two to the pack you can color coordinate them to outfits, rope, or other bondage items if you like, or if you end up losing one of them you always have the other to use, which is handy if you often misplace things like I do.

Overall each of these items are a great deal at under $15 a piece. They are all sturdy, well-made, and easy to use while also being affordable. Much thanks to PinkCherry.Com for sending me these items, and duplicates of each of these items so I can give them away to you, my readers! Keep your eye out for the contest coming soon on Pleasurists and will be cross-posted here too.

Coy Pink!

Oh, goodness… it’s pink! I must have it! It goes with my theme, dontcha know. I’d put a fresh shock of color (pink, of course) in my hair, let Alec lovingly place the collar on my neck and the blindfold on my face. Then I’d beg him to beat me with the whip. All of this, of course, would be followed up by a photo session to capture the glory of the pink naughtiness.

What a fun giveaway!

And we do expect to see those pictures you promised!

How I wish I had more of these to give away! I couldn’t decide so I numbered my favorites and used a Random Number Generator to pick the winner. If I had my way all four of you would receive one!

However, there will be more contests in the future, so be sure to enter those! Someone’s gotta win, why not you? Enter my Holiday Bunny Giveaway and keep your eyes peeled for my contest on Pleasurists as well featuring four kinky items from PinkCherry.Com!