Comments on: Another Slight Semantic Difference

By: The Femmeinist Fucktoy » August in a Glance

The Femmeinist Fucktoy » August in a Glance — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 09:19:28 +0000

[...] mused about some semantic issues I was having around my use of the term ‘Master’ and have since been using Dominus when referring to my Owner, mostly because I enjoy it more and he [...]

By: Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 22:01:31 +0000

@Rori: I still call Master “Baby” sometimes, usually in public, but sometimes it slips out when we’re alone as well. Lucky for me he doesn’t mind it, but it does seem kind of odd sometimes, mostly when we’re alone as opposed to in public. I also use Dear and Sweetie and things like that, I rarely call him by his given name.

As for Daddy, I knew there was a term I was forgetting! I like the concept of Daddy Doms, but as I have called my father Daddy (usually Daddy-o, but still, similar) it feels a little weird for me, and I know Master feels a little weird about it as well. Though in many ways he is a Daddy Dom, it’s just not a term we’re comfortable using. (Personal preference, not meant to discourage your use, etc. I’m sure you know that, but I like to mention it ’cause I don’t want you feeling like I’m dissing your choice!)

I agree that titles are often underestimated, it goes along with my label fetish in some ways (a post I’m currently working on, and am planning on drawing that parallel as well!) when something is named or labeled or called the correct thing it can feel just right, and enhance the experience not only with whatever it is being named but also as a whole… if that makes sense.

By: Rori

Rori — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 12:46:53 +0000

I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. In the beginning, I called him Master, but it always seemed forced and strange. Sir was equally weird for us, although I do say it once in a blue moon. This is my first d/s relationship, and prior to this, I’ve always called my s.o. “baby.” I called him that a few times, and he DEFINITELY didn’t like that!

I don’t know how it happened, but I slipped into calling him Daddy, and he really liked it. So did I, because that what he is to me – a protector, disciplinarian, unconditional lover. He usually called me babygirl outside the bedroom, slut in the bedroom.

I think people underestimate the comfort of finding that right “title.” To me, it was really important. Good like finding what works for you!