Comments on: Semantics Sunday: Domina

By: The Femmeinist Fucktoy » August in a Glance

The Femmeinist Fucktoy » August in a Glance — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 07:39:40 +0000

[...] I didn’t talk a whole lot about my Domina side this month, though things have been percolating, a lot of my attention was on my cuntpet personae due to Dominus’ and my anniversaries which I wrote about. I did, however, write my first Semantics Sunday post on my definition of the term Domina. [...]

By: Another Slight Semantic Difference | The Femmeinist Fucktoy

Another Slight Semantic Difference | The Femmeinist Fucktoy — Sat, 09 Aug 2008 07:41:48 +0000

[...] have all the same connotations as Master or even Owner does. I talked extensively about my use of the term Domina just last Sunday, and I feel similarly with the term Dominus, it’s regal and delicious. I [...]

By: Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:04:57 +0000

@dominadoll: Definitely biased (as am I), but that's not necessarily a bad thing! I think it's fantastic that you use it, especially since I see it so infrequently, and I remember thinking that the first time you commented (did I mention that in my responding comment? Hmm, I'll have to go check, maybe not).

By: dominadoll

dominadoll — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 00:49:51 +0000

I’ve been using the name Domina for several years as my scene name for fetish events and the various d/s societies in which I belong. I chose the name after taking a workshop with Midori about “claiming your female dominance” and doing an archetype worksheet. I definitely prefer it over the term Domme, but maybe I’m biased.

By: scarlet lotus sexgeek

scarlet lotus sexgeek — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 00:06:01 +0000

@Amber: Hehe, when I read the post to Master he said that he would start calling himself a Dominus and wear Roman battle armor. Kind of amusing. But I think Dominus and Domina both have a much more regal and superior air to them than Dom and Domme.

I also agree that the verbal distinction is much nicer as well, instead of both of them sounding like Dom, having that distinction is nice. I remember reading your suggestion about it, and I couldn’t agree more (I thought I responded? Maybe not…) I just don’t think that Domme should be as commonly used as it is!

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 21:24:13 +0000

I’m very with you! I much prefer “Domina” to “Domme,” for many reasons. One being that it’s hard to mispronounce “Domina,” whereas pronunciations go all across the board with “Domme.” Plus, “Domina” is verbally more clear, since there is the discinction between the female “Domina” and the male “Dominus.” Given that the correct pronunciation of “Domme” is the same as the pronunciation for “Dom,” it’s verbally ambiguous.

I posted a suggestion on the FetLife Town Hall not too long ago, before it got split into Suggestions and Tech Support, asking that the title “Domme” be replaced with “Domina” or just plain “Dom,” or at the very lease supplemented with those two choices. I don’t know why it matters so much to me, as I don’t classify as Dominant so I don’t have to see the term “Domme” on my page, so I guess it’s just the thought behind the whole thing.

As for men using the term “Dominus…” well, the mere word sends tiny little chills down my spine, so yes, I think I could very much warm up to calling a man “Dominus.” :)

By: scarlet lotus sexgeek

scarlet lotus sexgeek — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 07:52:37 +0000

@PantheraPardus: You totally are the queen of blog comments! Do I have the Latin stuff right? I’d assume so, since you didn’t correct me.

I like the idea of typing just ‘Dom’ for all genders, I think it makes much more sense in some ways. Hmm. I don’t think it makes a whole lot of difference, and may depend if one was using it as a title rather than a label? Hmm, something to ponder anyway.

By: PantheraPardus

PantheraPardus — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 02:21:07 +0000

I like it. Granted, I studied three years of Latin, so I’m biased.

Words are important, and words can be loaded. ‘Domina’ sounds quite classy and quite feminine, but powerful. Besides, it sounds quite sexy when said properly. ;)

As for ‘Domme’: I tend to simply type ‘Dom’ for both males and females. I don’t know why I have this stubborn habit, but there it is. It may be that while I myself gender-identify as female (and am biologically female), I’m not your typical feminine female…

My usage of the term may change as I meet more people who identify as dominants and I hear which term they prefer and why. It’s all a process. ;)